Mindset Shift That Can Change Any Man’s Dating Life
Recently, I have been watching many men suffer in love or in relationships. They either get friend-zoned or even if they somehow enter into a relationship, they don’t get treated the way they deserve to be treated. So, What may be the reason? Dilution of the idea of Love from movies and TV Shows. When people don’t know how to love they refer to Models (Movies and TV Show). And somehow models are teaching the wrong things. So, let us break a few mindsets that you might have about dating and love. And teach you a better and healthier way of dating.
1. Asking for Sex is Bad TO There is nothing wrong about being Sexual
Most of the times man are made to see that sex is something bad. Sex is only for bad people. And that results in a man not accepting his sexuality. It is normal for a straight man to want to have sex with a female. But NO, many men try to hide behind the pretext that they want to love or care whereas they only want sex. And that leads to the man appearing fake in front of the female. I know it’s hard to become sexual with a girl in a post-feminine world where you are constantly called a pervert, sex addict, and god knows what other stuff. But it’s biological, there is nothing to hide about it. Be a man and accept your sexuality and don’t care about what others think.
2. You need a girlfriend to look successful TO A girl doesn’t define your success
Women are treated as prizes. Women are success trophies for men. Having a girlfriend shows that you’re not a loser. Anyone and everyone who has this kind of mindset is a complete loser. This is the reason why many women don’t choose you and whoever chooses you leaves you. It is because instead of treating her like a fellow human being you become a slave to her. You sacrifice your money, ideals, identity into pleasing her. Remember, It’s okay to show the desire for her. But wanting her because it will improve your social status among men is not the right way to go about dating women. A woman will never define your success. You and only you define your success. So, keep the focus on yourself.
3. Be devoted to one girl TO Always have options
I can get a lot of backlash from the so-called feminists but I’m gonna say this. Don’t stick with one girl. I repeat again don’t keep only one girl in your heart. The reason I say this is because when males love a female, they begin treating them as their wives even if they are just dating or just friends. Yes, they solely devote their life to them. They begin doing cute things for them. And that really turns her off. But If you had options then you won’t act married because there will always be another girl in the scenario. Either go for many or go for none. Now, You might think of it as cheating. But, you’re not married. You’re only dating. So, don’t act like one. And let me tell you a bitter truth. When a woman will find someone better than you, they will leave and you can’t blame them. It’s their biological nature to seek the best male out there. So, remember this: Either go for many or go for none. And if you go for one, it’s definitely gonna go wrong for you. Because you’ll become desperate and needy because you have only one girl in your life. And eventually, you’ll end up with no girl in your life.
4. From let’s just talk our hearts out TO Let’s have fun
When you start dating a girl, you will be tempted to talk your heart out with her. You might feel like no one has ever understood you better. Because men don’t talk their hearts out to other males. That’s why men keep falling for every woman they meet and fall into the vicious cycle of friendzone. To get out of there what you need to do is, do the things you might do with your male friends. Have fun, take her out. Go trekking, go bowling, go on adventures together. Don’t just sit around and keep talking your heart out. Because females always talk with their other female friends. What a male needs to do is keeps her excited. Because females win a male's heart by talking and Men win a Women’s heart by having fun with her. Because her life is so dull, I mean women rarely go out to have fun. If you can make things fun for her. She’ll want to be with you. It’s that simple.
5. I need to have a girlfriend in college TO Don’t try to date until you have money or confidence
Do you know when men break their hearts the most? During their teenage days. Because they keep chasing girls and even if she talks with him out of politeness he considers it as love. He keeps seeing signs that never existed in the first place and sooner or later gets heartbroken and blames the girl for this. So, remember this always: A female is biologically ingrained to find the best male that will keep her and her child safe. And the measure a female uses is social status. Where do you stand in the social hierarchy? Your place in society is shown by males by either Money or Confidence. Because money means resources and having confidence means potential for having resources. So, that’s the reason a girl is always taken by the rich bad boy and not you. And don’t you demonize a girl for this. Always take responsibility. Although heartbreaks are a great lesson. But it wouldn’t be bad to avoid it. Learn from others and don’t chase girls if you don’t have one of the two. And usually one accompanies the other. Money and Confidence go hand in hand.
Now, if you change your mindset and bring this necessary shift. You will be loaded with options, remember a female will always seek the best male. That’s why become the best out there. And becoming the best doesn’t mean becoming perfect. It means accepting your imperfections and not be affected even if someone scratches at your affection. And always know that the focus must be on you. Not the girl. Don’t demonize her or hate her. Start accepting responsibility and be the man for your women.
Happy Dating.
